Here's a thought that The Sheep has just put to me.
The lads that I collect are all non-threatening. They are all teddies, there are a couple I wouldn't like to fall out with, N, LF, BB and J although they've always been sweet with me but the rest of my motley collection are softies.
He reckons as I'm a girl with classically 'masculine' traits, I find myself drawn to associate with men who have 'feminine traits' and vice versa, like we're all looking for the traits we're lacking in in each other.
I never really thought about it that way.
What do you guys think? Do you think its just random or do you think there's some sorta deep psychological reason behind the people we choose to have as friends?
Its far too deep a thought for me to have before bedtime, that's for sure!
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Hmmm....interesting. I think I agree with that theory right now, but I might have more on it later.
I think too much is often made of "gendered" traits.
What is it that makes you more masculine? And why then don't we try to balance these things out in our same sex relationships? You don't see a macho man seeking out "softer" men to hang out with at the pub.
I would guess that there are subtler reasons than gender traits which lead you to seek out certain relationships with certain types of men.
I think there are also big differenecs between choosing friends and choosing romantic partners. I tend to be friends with "softies" but pursue relationships with more macho types. (B being a sort of exception, since we were friends for three years first!)
-h
Hmmm, I kinda see where you're coming from, Hyde....my bf is macho and so are all my male friends.
My female friends however are extremely girlie ... unlike me.
Funny how I never really realised until now - did I choose these friends subconsciously??
See I think too much is made of it Spins, but the older I get the more aware I get of how I'm expected to act "feminine".
I get told that I act too "blokey" by both male and female friends to have blokes fancy me or think of me in any other way than as a sister, that I should dress in a more girly way, which I can only imagine means pink and skirts and flowery, girly clothes, which ain't me at all.
See if you put it down to me, I'd just say I choose to hang with these people as I feel I have more in common with them, and even the majority of my girlfriends ain't exactly girly-girls.
But the idea interested me.
Silly blokes if they can't see past their own noses and have to have a woman's sexuality waved in front of them like a flowered cloak before a bull.
The thing is girls are worse, and ones that are my friends and supposed to understand that we're in 2005 and not 1906.
Sometimes its a little hurtful, but as if its suddenly gonna make me throw away all my jeans and buy skirts!
but that's probably a post for another day!
Hello? Since when are a cute pair of jeans not sexy?
(PS: Has anyone else noticed that those word verifications are really fucking irritating when you're quasi-drunk commenting?)
-h
I never notice anything except all my friends usually turn out to be completely bloody mental.
Probably doesn't say much for me LOL
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